“Testimonies of sex workers who identify themselves as heterosexual also show ways in which the performance of sex work queers heterosexuality […] One interviewee, Monica, said that her work experience makes her less likely to put up with the hetero pickup scene : “When I go out to a club and some guy’s trying to pick me up, I look at him and think, Why should I even talk to you ? Why listen to your life story and what you do for a living ? I don’t care. You’re not even paying me.” Because she now gets paid to perform heterosexuality, that is to say, to play a role of sexual availability and feminine receptivity, she is less willing to play that role for free. She does not claim to have no sexual interest in men; rather, it is the institution of compulsory heterosexuality, whereby women must politely tolerate and respond to male sexual advances, to which she objects.”
Eva Pendleton, “Love for Sale”, in Jill NAGLE, Whores and other feminists, Routledge, 1997, p. 76-77 (via fuckyeahfemmes)
I remember this essay and Pendleton is quoting from an interview in Cosmo or some other bs like that with this hysterical hand-wringing tone abt how stripping had ruined sex and romance and men and basically life for these women, citing this quote of Monica’s as evidence. It was hilaribad bc of course Pendleton is right, and so is Monica, it hasn’t ruined anything, rather it’s given her new standards and allowed her to place a different value (not nec only or entirely financial) on her time, attention and energy.