Another dancer is thinking about legal stuff and asked me what the reaction has been like, and, yk, it’s been a mixed bag, with people privately wishing me well and being silent while other people are publicly hysterical conservatives about rocking the boat and “you agreed to work for illegal standards so you don’t have the right to sue! I make money and don’t mind being treated like shit so what’s YOUR problem? “Exploitation lol!”” But overall it’s totally fine. Like those people are embarrassing and ignorant and kind of their own worst enemies.

Then she told me about her boss and how her boss is like “you are all completely replaceable. There are TONS of girls dying to work here and fill your shifts, so always remember who has the power,” and how scared she is about backlash and like, LEGIT.

In a way I totally admire her boss taking that route, it’s pretty rare. You get a lot more of the “special snowflake” routine, managers making a big deal of their pets, giving them the best shifts and destroying solidarity from the inside thru making sure their favourites feel like their success is due to their innate specialness and not the fact that, due to genetics and luck, they happen to be the body and personality type the man doing the schedule likes best and then other dancers aspiring to that status and trying to get it through cozying up/loud proclamation of loyalty and lateral whorephobia: we’re the top tier, noblesse oblige, we don’t need rights, our manager loves us.

this works. I loved when Ilya called me his little tiger. (That was 11 years ago ok. I know better now. Less desperate for patriarchal/managerial approval).

This doesn’t even bother destroying competition from within, it straight up sets everyone at each other’s throats, everyone is competition. It’s brutally honest and brutally efficient.


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Sex-Trafficking Victims Hurt Most by Senator’s Crusade Against Classified Ads –

Sex-Trafficking Victims Hurt Most by Senator’s Crusade Against Classified Ads –

Noah Berlatsky continues to be a real ally here, giving space to and amplifying the voices of actual sex workers and their research.
As always, embedded links that you really need to read if you’re interested in sex work activism/being an ally to sex workers, at the link! ESPECIALLY read Tara’s work. And remember that Portland is a part of the latest suits agains backpage, while Seattle is just one of several cities currently experimenting with implementing End Demand. Talk to your friends and family, write letters to the editor and op-eds, I can help you with the latter and with sources if you need. Please don’t stand silently by and watch as it happens.

Terra Burns, the author of a report on sex work in Alaska, says that closing outlets like puts women more at risk. “I don’t think that getting rid of advertising mediums is helpful to anybody,” Burns says. “It’s harmful to people who are doing sex work at the most survival level, who can’t afford more expensive advertising venues and are forced out on the street. And it’s harmful for sex trafficking victims who are also potentially forced out onto the street.”“Those are the people who are affected the most by this kind of thing,” Burns added. “It’s not some evil sex trafficker, because he … can deal with changes in the market.”

Backpage is currently being sued by some trafficking victims for contributing to their exploitation. Yet many law enforcement officials admit, reluctantly, that Backpage is actually very helpful in their work catching sex traffickers. Clearwater, Florida, Police Chief Anthony Holloway, for example, declared that Backpage “needs to be shut down” while contradictorily acknowledging that “it’s a good investigative tool for us right now for trafficking.” He also admitted that, if the site were shut down, advertisers would simply move to other, less regulated venues.

Mistress Matisse, a Seattle dominatrix and sex-worker rights advocate, agrees that Kirk’s bill would neither stop traffickers nor help victims. “To the extent that they actually exist, actual traffickers will just advertise elsewhere, or put people on the street,” Matisse says. “And people just trying to get money for food and shelter will have to resort to even more dangerous means as well.” Matisse argues that “if Kirk really wants to help people, he should be fighting for more anti-poverty programs and homeless shelters, especially teenage homeless programs.”

Burns suggests that lawmakers look at “coercion by police officers” and discrimination in accessing public services. “In my survey a lot of [sex workers] were discriminated against in accessing shelter,” she said, “but of the people who were sex trafficking victims, 100 percent of them were denied emergency shelter.”

The survey didn’t provide detailed information about why victims had trouble with the shelters, but some respondents did tell Burns that they were turned away because of where they met the people they were seeking shelter from (presumably, while selling sexual services). Burns comments, “when someone’s a sex-trafficking victim and they’re seeking emergency shelter, and you deny them that shelter, you’re most likely causing them to continue to be sex trafficked.”

It’s notable that both Burns and Matisse offer solutions aimed at empowering victims, rather than a villain to scapegoat. If you want to help marginalized people, you need to stop marginalizing them, not talk of rescue while driving victims—and their abusers—further underground.

Decent treatment for stigmatized populations does’t fit easily into a heroic narrative, however. So instead, Kirk bravely goes after Backpage. It’s almost like the real crime here is not trafficking, but visibility. Sex workers who can’t advertise are sex workers you can’t see—which makes it easier to portray them all as victims in need of heroes.

Oregon politicians take note.

Where is Leighalanna’s quote about how she gets to do what she cares about bc of sex work?

What a weirdo world. People are SO HUNG UP on this idea of labour as a legitimizing force: “real” labour and “not real” labour, and among the “not real” labour you have me and my whorish ilk but then you also have the people who keep the whole god damn world RUNNING: the people feeding the masses thru fast food, agricultural workers working for change, the people pumping your gas and cleaning your shit off your toilets at your white collar job with benefits, the “real” work which handles invisible transactions like changing hands on houses you’ll never live in and kickin people out bc their “unreal” “temporary” labour doesn’t pay enough.

We have this ye olde Victorian idea that the right kind f labour is necessary for a decent life and world but increasingly—as that report Wednesday showed—there AREN’T decent jobs: the mid level jobs are being shipped over seas to ensure higher profits for the people in high level jobs. People like yon sad reddit troll are living in a dream world that Simply Doesn’t Exist anymore, and that tbh only flourished and existed for a brief time in the 20th century: the idea that work is necessary for personal value and that work brings meaning to life.

Sex work FUNDS the meaningful things in my life in a way that no other job would be able to; it allows me time and energy to do them, things I absolutely wouldn’t have even at a mid level managerial job of the kind the US is increasingly losing.

There is NOTHING unethical about this. The idea that poor people should stay in their place and be content and be poor is incredibly classist, the idea that people need to do shitty work to be considered of value (but only marginally more value than sex work, we know what jobs are valued and these aren’t the kind of jobs you get with a basic bachelors anymore, which is why I’m trying to get into grad school mad doing activist work!) —that’s just silly and unethical. We all inherently have value, people who can’t work as well as people who work shitty jobs as well as people who suck cock for cash.

I do my work, my emotional and sexual labour, and I get to buy art and books and delicious food and sleep enough and enjoy life! And if you think that’s wrong, you’re the one with the problem. And it is YOUR problem, not mine.

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money changes everything

Money woes again. Taking Fridays and Saturdays off always sets me back, no matter how secure I think I am before I start. Then I took last night off for being sick and I feel much better but. Now I have to worry about money again and it’s so hard to make myself go to work when I’m terrified of not making enough.

I hate the way money worries tint everything, closing around you like a trap. Money is options and choices and freedom.

I chose a really good day to not shave and wear thick tall thigh highs: the girl with staph thinks she’s having another outbreak. She put a heart sticker over it, but still.

We’re all so crunched for money rn it’s hard to begrudge her presence even though I really really wish she would stay home; the stages only get washed once a day

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